Three and a half years ago, I was lucky enough to marry my best friend, my love, my partner. Sadly not everyone has this right. B and I strongly believe that everyone has the right to marry, which is why we made that part of our own wedding ceremony.
White Knot for Equality is a non-profit organization founded in 2008 as a response to the passing of Proposition 8 in California, bans on same-sex marriage, and the denial of equal rights for LGBT persons across the nation and around the world. The White Knot symbol takes two traditional symbols of marriage—white and tying the knot—and combines them. It is at once a proud display of a belief in basic human rights and an invitation to conversation.
I have gay family members and many of my dear friends are gay. It saddens me (actually makes me sick to my stomach) that they can not have the same basic human rights that I have. They are AMAZING people and deserve to love, be loved, and most importantly be treated equally.
To show our support, B and I spent a Saturday afternoon before the wedding and made White Knots. We did not force anyone to wear them at the wedding, but simply left them in a bowl with a sign explaining why we were wearing them and why this was important to us.
The sign read:
We are wearing White Knots because we support Marriage Equality!
We are fortunate enough to be able to get married today without objection or judgement and we believe everyone should have that right. Marriage is about committed couples who want to make a lifelong promise to take care of and be responsible for the other. People should be treated fairly no matter what their race, gender, ethnicity or sexual orientation is.
Please join us in support of Marriage Equality and wear a White Knot too!
Everyone should have the right to tie the knot!
We were pleased to see that many of our guests were wearing the White Knots we provided and were helping to spread the message of love and equality. Because the pinned knot wouldn’t be visible on my dress, I choose to tie a ribbon around my wrist and make a White Knot from there.
Our family and friends mean the world to us and we will always continue to show our support in fighting this human rights issue. Yes, it is a simple human rights issue. It has nothing to due with religion, politics, etc…just simple human rights. Is it not true that “all men are created equal”? So why isn’t everyone treated that way?
The goal of this post is not to change anyone’s mind and I’m sure that I will lose readers because of it. That is fine. My hope here is to make people think and hopefully spark a simple conversation. Everyone has the right to love and be loved…let’s not continue to spread a message of hate and exclusion. Life is simply too short…